Friendship

Friendships are tricky. Because people are weird, myself included. I wonder if things were this complicated back-in-the-day before all of the social media we have. I'll admit it, I love Twitter. Facebook isn't so much my thing anymore but people use it as a means of communication, so I have to keep it. So many things can be said, without saying (or commenting) anything at all. Which leaves room for a lot of misread messages, and also a lot of hurt. It sort of sucks, actually it really sucks. I wish things were simpler, but things have never been simple. Not even in elementary school, looking back on them now they may seem like they were but when we were little kiddies getting our feelings worked up because we lost to a game of tag. (now I just assume I will because running is more difficult to me than Organic Chemistry, that is sayin' sumfin right there). I don't think things were ever "simple", nothing is simple I feel like these days. The people we meet and spend our free time with right now, will we ever see them after we walk across that stage on graduation? Some people, I believe I will! And I am so happy to have those friends in my life. But others will walk off that stage and walk out of our lives; a little dramatic? Yes, I tend to be a drama queen sometimes. But if you think about it, were those past few years a waste because we spent so much time with someone that we would never see again? I think it depends on what you learned from that person or who they affected your life. Some people aren't good friends because they're selfish, and with friendships you can't be selfish. It takes two people, because you can't have a relationship with yourself. (well maybe you can in certain cases when people have dual personalities, but in most cases two people are required) It is the worst feeling when you spent a lot of your time trying to help someone and befriend them and they took it for granted or never really appreciated it all. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had a friend like this? Am I right? Afterwards, you feel used and unwanted. It ain't a good feeling for those of you who haven't felt it before.


I care too much. I try to see the best in people. I give people too many second chances. I give people too much of my time and often forget about my wellbeing. But I love people. I don't want to become cynical, because I hope that people aren't trying to use me, they have just never been taught anything different. I shouldn't let people get to me, but sometimes they just do!! I still, however, try and see the good in others. It's getting harder now, and I hate that. It gets harder because life gets harder. I like to leave on a good note (because this was a pretty deep post coming out right after I shredded it Jillian Michaels), so I leave my readers with this quote:

"Speak ill of no man, but speak all the good you know about everybody." 

I don't know who said this, but I think it speaks a lot of truth. It's so easy to see negative things in other people because I believe those are things we recognize in ourselves. 

When you look into someones eyes, you can see your reflection but what if what you see is more than a reflection? What if what you see is a part of yourself in that person? So how then can we look into someone's eyes and hate them, or think negative thoughts about them? Because then wouldn't we be thinking those same things about a piece of ourselves? 

Leisure Books.

I love to read. I love everything about books. The smell of the pages. Getting lost in the storyline. Everything. Currently I am caught up in "The Help". And I LOVE it. It's simply the best. It's my motivation to finishing my homework. Last night I stayed up (on a Friday night) and finished all my homework for the weekend just so I could read it for the rest of the weekend. Eeek! I want to be reading it right this second, but I'm blogging instead. I bet my readers like that! 


I would like to take this time to talk about how much reading is becoming "old timey". I think it is in a way, with all the upcoming technology at our fingertips (the play on words was intensional there). Now we have iPads, iPhones, Kindles, Nooks and so many other things to make having a book almost ancient. I will always use books. Yes, I have an iPhone but I will always prefer a book over a screen. Always. Nothing compares to a book in my book. (I am doing so great with my puns today). I hope books never go out of style though, but it sort of seems like they are. Which makes me really sad. I hope books will stay in style like a nice strand of pearls. Pearls will always be in style, I don't care what any high end fashion magazine has to say about that. They always will, ask any mom. Well except those really skinny and really tan moms who work out for a living, they might say otherwise but any other mommy wouldn't. Especially my mommy :) 


I hope after reading this blog about reading you feel inspired to read. You won't regret it, I can promise that. As long as you pick a classic book, one that won't go out of style like pearls. 


I will end with this quote, "A love of books, of holding a book, turning its pages, looking at its pictures, and living its fascination stories goes hand-in-hand with a love of learning"

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Comedy.

I have previously posted about laughter, but seriously folks there is no way to get through life without laughter! I just ran into one of my friends who is hilarious. Yes, most of his comedy comes from jokes about other people but it was just what I needed! There is no way I could have made it through today without some laughter. So much to get done and so little time. I never understood why my mom would always say that, but now I get it. Sort of like the whole "You'll understand when you're older". Well, if that doesn't make me feel old I don't know what does. With the exception of freshman girls who haven't gone through puberty, or they have you just can't tell because they don't have enough body fat on them. I'll gladly lend them some of mine! The won't even have to return it! Man, suchhhh a deal. Anyways, to those of you who are reading this and you have found yourself drowning in a sea of "to-do's", just take a look at this picture and have yourself a laugh.

I assure you that you'll be entertained.

New Beginnings.

Long time no blog. How I have missed the sweet feeling of typing out my thoughts and epiphanies. As of few weeks ago, I am moved in! I have finished most everything, but of course it is going to take a few days to get completely settled in, which I have done thus far. (this blog was written the day after I moved in, but I had not yet posted it because it was incomplete and I only post perfected blogs for my readers)




However, I have only good feelings about this year. And I am certain good things are to come of twenty-eleven.  I am going to have a lot more comitments than last year, commitments that I have agreed upon nonetheless, but I am learning to take it slow. It's not in my job description to do everything, other people are just as capable of doing the same tasks that I would normally volunteer for. However, this year is different! I have restrained myself from taking on too many things that I need not do! So heres to a new semester with new beginnings and a less busy me! Of course this isn't going to come easy, but I am confident that the Lord will be able to calm my heart so that I am not a busy person with no time to spend with myself.  


I know the Lord is encouraging me to take things slow, to look inward and think about myself for once.  It's way too easy to worry about every else's problems, but when it comes to helping the person who's staring back at you in the mirror things become a little more difficult. An example: this bog has taken me about a month to finish. Hmm, that is sad and I am so sorry to have neglected you Blog. I started this Blog Post the day I moved in, right after my family had left and I am just now posting it. Man. Well, I am aiming to post at least every week! If not every two weeks, with either I would be doing good! 

Things I've Learned.

I'm not that old and according to my grades this semester I'm getting less smart each year, but I have learned a lot this semester. For me, this semester has been rough. Real rough. I had to deal with many things I did not in any way want to, but that's life for ya.  I sometimes wonder why life is so hard.  I'll never know the answer to that, or at least not right now. As I sit in my empty room without my room mate who I dearly miss, I look back on this year and wonder why I didn't love it each and every minute.  I'm growing up, but I spend half my time wishing I didn't have to deal with stuff instead of loving every minute.  I'm only a college student, but college students have done great things in our country's history.  I only wonder why I look at my life and see my failures?  I don't see the things I've done this semester that have been great, I just look at the test grade that didn't turn out in my favor or the ice-cream that has slowly increased my waistline.  I can do whatever it is I want to do.  And right now, I want to be the best I can be.  But good-God, I am so out of steam.  This semester has sucked me dry, and I have learned that I will never EVER again procrastinate.  This year it really got the better of me, and I don't like it one bit. But at least I learned something!  I also learned I have too much stuff. TOO. MUCH. My car is packed to the limit.  Nothing more can fit in there.  Nothing more.  I pray the Lord to watch over me while I drive back home with only one visible mirror, if my mom knew I'd be doing this she's wring my neck.  Of course she could have come down to pack me up instead of leaving me to deal with it like an adult.  I haven't become an adult yet and I don't plan to anytime soon. I'm a young lady, YOUNG being the key word.  But I can only go up, because I've hit my all-time low.  And since gas is at almost $4.00, I don't see myself getting anymore steam anytime soon...oops. 

A little pet peeve of mine

So I have a few things that really get to me, some of which are completely ridiculous and others which are pretty understandable (according to me). One of these annoyances that I have are the word verification boxes you have to fill out occasionally online--you know the boxes that have squiggly words and are hard to read? The ones that makes you think, "If I get this wrong this internet site is going to think I'm either drunk or on medications that were not prescribed to me or the sickness they are most commonly used to. So I better get this right, or else I'm going to be in a fight with an internet site."  Now do you know what I'm talking about? If not, maybe a visual will help. But first please type the characters you see in the box. HA just kidding, I would never make any of my many readers (I'm thinking positive here!) go through that pain. 

These suckers will getcha.  And this one is particularly bad because of the two-tonedness, and the swirly letters are just so dumb.  Gosh, I just don't like anything about them.  I also found that many other people have a dislike for word verification boxes.  I found some pretty hostile images toward them. Here are some of my finds:

The "Just say NO" approach...

The death approach...

"I'd like a table for non-word-verification please, and also non-smoking please. I'm really not trying to be high maintenance, this is just who I am"

The prohibition tact-it.

The sweet, peace-full approach. 

There were many more images that had negative comments towards word verification, but these were just a few of my favorites.  Now remember folks, just say no when it comes to word verification.  Silent protest.  We can do it, I feel a movement coming on. 

Laughter is the only thing that'll keep you sane.

Last weekend was our College Life Spring Retreat. We went to the Topsail beach and stayed at one of our college lifers beach house. It was an amazing weekend! We have such a great community of people.  This is the video we made for the retreat. It is truly awesome! Mostly because I am in it, no just kidding. Mostly because Jesus does such great things with our chaotic lives.

I hope y'all enjoy it!